Baby~~

Oops~ I don't have any yet ah ... and I'm not preggy yet though I hope it will be next yr cos I'm not getting any younger~! (I'm not revealing my age though its all over the place)

Dar says need to wait until we have enough savings which is true ah since having additional expenses like Doctor's, tonics, fees for giving birth and baby things as well as a bit here and there adds up to a lot.... URGH~~~!!

So I'll just give my paypal address please donate yeah? Lolx ... Just kidding, I won't want any unsolicited money or ask people for money unless absolute neccessary ;D

Oops~

Seems like I haven't updated this blog in ages~! That's cause I've changed a new job and is tired and stressed out every day due to the challenges that awaits me every single day. I lose sleep thinking about my job. I dream about my job and basically slump there on my chair after work every day. I neglected cleaning my house, neglected updating my personal blog (Still got update but lesser than before) and of course, I've neglected this blog too.


However, I will not neglect going out with friends or my Dar no matter how busy or stressed though I think they can see my stamina is no longer as good as before. Dar is very sweet as he tries to do whatever housework I asked him and make sure I have my dinner every day.


So every day around 4pm I will receive a call or sms from him asking me what I wanted for dinner. ;D Keep asking me to drink more water or drag me to breakfast every Sat before Choir just so I can stay healthy and well. I just hope he can play lesser of Maple Story then I will be damn happy.

Now what can I do for him then?

Of my headaches

That day we spent a lazy Sat afternoon at home before we had to go out for dinner with our family...

Having slept at 4am the previous day and having choir practice at 930am that morning, I was feeling quite tired. At one point I was waiting for the 僵尸道长 to load before I can watch, I turned to look at my husband playing his Maple Story....

He looked up and said "Having headache again right?" ...

I was like ". . . and how do you know?"

and he said "Of course, who do you think I am to you?"

Couldn't suppress my smile as I felt really touched that he can know just how I am feeling without me even batting my eyelid or telling him outright....

幸福 。 。 。

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Of cooking and damn black hotdogs

That day my husband was cooking instant noodles and pan frying some hot dogs for dinner. I didn't want dinner as I was not feeling hungry.

Then came the nice smell of hot dogs frying on the pan. Somehow the smell became a bit like charred... So I went to the kitchen to see what happened. Before I reached the kitchen my husband went "Ling!! Come!!" And I appeared asking him whether the hot dogs were charred.

Turned out not only were the hot dogs over cooked, they now looked like some black discs on an oily frying pan ... erm "So you just put them on the pan and on the biggest flame?" and he said "yeah"

So we had to open all the windows and the main door as well as switch on the fans at the highest speed to let all the smoke out.

;D

Of Ironing and Man

Dar have to wear shirts to work everyday. So that day, he said he wants to try ironing his own shirts. So I was like "Ok~ Thats even better for me"

After ironing 2 shirts, he came over, sweating all over and said ... "Ling can you help me iron? I can't stand it anymore."

And I was like

". . ."

Braun should start R&D on irons that man would love to use. Maybe ironing clothes with cool mist or something....

Our Wedding photos * Super long post*

So sorry for the super late post. U must know that its damn tiring up loading the photos.

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Mar 9th and we were on our way to KL for our wedding. AD on Mar 10th 2008. We decided to get the super luxurious bus with 5 stars tours and it sure was luxurious with 18 seats of which 12 were booked by us. Lots of leg spaces ... games and music to entertain us on our 5 hour long trip. The trip however, was delayed by 1 certain person whom is still at large.




Finally reached KL like 3 hours later than the time we were supposed to reach. And after switching rooms, packing and unpacking, we just have some time left to eat dinner, buy stuffs for the next day and bath before sleeping. Damn tired! Though I am a light sleeper, I fell asleep immediately when my head hit the pillow.


Had to wake up before 6am the next morning to prepare as my make up artiste will be coming at 630am.






and later Shaffiq my photographer for the day arrived with his (2) super pro cameras!



While I started on my make up and posing for the cam, my sisters started preparing the ingredients bought the previous night. Ginger, Colgate, Bitter Gourd, Raw vegetables and Oreos. Why all vegetables? Thats because Dar doesn't like to eat all those items (well... cept Oreos and who loves to EAT colgate?) Pyjamas to play with and etc.








Theme for the morning was white and pink. Coincidentally, they all decided to wear white. Which was fine with me as long as they were comfortable.



Since we were in a foreign country with only my parents as my family here, we naturally do not have any male kids to open the car door for the groom. So Phil was assigned the task since he is my "Ah Di", knows me the longest there and is unmarried (considered as a child). Extra ang bao for him!


Dar's "brothers" originally thought to be only 5 but suddenly increased to that many.

Look at his face!!!? what were they negotiating? Frankly speaking, I won't know since I was in the other room.

Cantonese custom? When the groom finally gets to come into my room we had to bow to each other before he can lift my veil.



And naively wanted to start the tea ceremony after that. But I sat down and said:

"and where is my bouquet?"

~he proceeded to hand me the flowers~

Me: "And so you are going to hand it to me while standing up?"



He got no choice but to kneel down~ Ho Ho Ho~!







Tea ceremony was very short as only my parents came. My brother still in Hong Kong and my sister under attachment in Singapore.









This photo looks like some advertisement for shopping paradise:
























Traditional Cantonese family, though my mother-in-law had done away with a lot of the customary practices, some remained and the most important part was of course the tea ceremony and the 3 bows of respect we gave to each and every senior we offered tea to.

And of course tea from kids younger (and unmarried) to us.




Finally the end of the tiring morning after countless of bows and offering of tea and countless of thank yous. Yes morning~ cause by the time we finished with the tea ceremony and photo taking, it was only a bit before 1pm


Faked throwing of flower bouquets to my "sisters" or should I say to Judy since she is going to get married soon. Not possible to throw it nicely and accurately so we had to stage a s~l~o~w motion "throwing" for the camera.





Time for lunch, removing my make up and some rest before the tiring evening arrive. By the time I finish removing make up and bath, it was already 3pm and my make up artiste will come at 430pm! Like such a "long" duration of rest I can have. (Partly attributes from my 45 mins bath and soaking in the bath tub hehe....)

Evening came and I specifically stated that I won't be at the entrance of the restaurant greeting arriving guest as that defeats the purpose of a walk in and there won't be any element of surprise anymore.











Look how grand! Because of that and this is mostly a happy post, I won't state about how unhappy I was with the restaurant. But just a word of advice. DO NOT go to the restaurant (Mandarin Palace Chinese Restaurant) to hold ANY of your events. Because the service quality sucks and the food was only average. But the cafe "The Verandah" serves absolutely wonderful food especially the delicious Nasi Lemak.









Leaving to change into the evening gown while the rest of the guests watch the photo montage prepared by the photographer. Click here to watch too.

(simply loved this photo)

(Interesting photo this is)

After sending out most of the guests, its time to go back into the restaurant to receive our "gift" from Dar's Sec school friends . . . . remember how drunk we were during the dinner in Oct in Singapore? His friends were determined to do that to us this round.



Failed miserably! Haha! In the end each of us only had half a glass of Martell.

The final photo taking before the end of the night and the event. Whepw! Finally the whole wedding saga is over.

ROM...... Dinner in Singapore and Customary in KL.... 结婚三步曲. . .






Note :

Photos used were mostly taken by Shaffiq we engaged from Ever After Wedding Sdn Bhd and some from my pinky cam. Photos used were in the lowest resolution and cannot stand for the quality of the original pictures. Photos put up were a fraction of what was taken (took around 1500 photos) of which we shared 200 online (do email me themuxicbox@gmail.com if you would like to view them. Flowers, car decorations and corsages from Ever After Wedding Sdn Bhd.

Our AD video

Our AD Mar 9 KL Federal Hotel from Jeslyn on Vimeo.



What I was busying myself with over the weekend ;D Quite a well done video by the professional photographer we engaged. Its not very clear but thats because I converted it from the original VOB .... to share it here... (appreciate ok? ;P)

Will post up the whole story once I get all the photos back ;D Enjoy!

1 more week

1 more week to my AD at KL... so we went to collect our gowns and coats from Dawn's wedding... My my~ Look at the traffic jam there! Vehicles especially those that can carry a lot of people will be thoroughly checked for the escaped terrorist. As a result, roads were packed and slow moving. Took us some time and some detour to reach the customs. Especially the queue for the PRs and foreigners as Singaporeans can use passport scan to go through the Singapore customs.




Finally reaching Dawn's wedding to collect the gowns that we chose from this:

lot of gowns!

This time round, the choosing is faster and more efficient as the judge panel was the same as last time and we all knew which type of gowns suit me more.

I love this but it was rejected as the judges found it too plain.


This is very princessy-like and the cloth feels wonderful. But the train was too long which I won't want as I am very 粗鲁. It will be difficult getting on and off the car on the AD.


Tried on some "Kua" too for the 敬茶on that day. But I don't like this peony design as some how it looks weird.


This Dragon and Phoenix designed Kua looks nicer and it totally fits the theme of the day as my restaurant's name is Dragon Phoenix. I won't be wearing this Kua in the restaurant though, there won't be much time to change.




Finally chose the first wedding gown that I tried on that day. A sweet and simple white gown with pink details. Seems like pink/maroon/red and purple are the theme colors for the day.



A cheena designed evening gown for the cheena designed restaurant. I don't usually like chinese designed items but this gown totally fits me. Even the fushia pink is in the colour which complements my skin color.



Dar will be wearing this 中山领coat to fit my gown though we simply can't decide whether he looks nice with the collar in or out. I prefer out though that will make him look older than actual age. Collar in makes him look like some Japanese High sch kids.




We are unable to get a connecting room in the hotel we are staying in so it will be quite difficult to "play" during the 接新娘... we have to risk complains from the hotel. Sounds like quite sian but we will just see what happen on that day.

I hope that day goes on well. So we have to pray no rain and no traffic jam and I won't be bloated or have dark circles. Had been very hardworking applying eye cream, going for slimming massage and detoxing using apple cider vinegar. I've never used eye cream in my life and it cost me a total of $70!!! Goodness! Why should an eye cream cost so much?

27th Feb 2008 It's a special day~

Today marks our 1st yr Anniversary since ROM and the 7th yr since we held each other's hand.

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*blush* ~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There wasn't any romantic dinner night out or lavish presents etc etc....

He knows I don't buy that.

I do love the dinner he made for me despite it being (a lot) less than perfect.

psst~~ and he didn't complain he had to cook for me! That's the best present ever!

Of toilets and him

Gosh! That day Dar wanted to help me clean one of the toilets! And I was like "huh?? YOU want to help me clean?" Of course I jumped at the offer~

Now, when will the next offer be?

Tee Hee Hee

Its getting nearer. . . .

Even though the big hoo haa .. with ROM, Part 1 and Part 2 of the Oct wedding dinner... there is a Part 3 coming...

Nope, I'm not pregnant yet... ;P the Part 3 consist of the customary wedding ceremony and wedding dinner in March where we go through the 过大礼,接新娘,敬茶etc.

This time, I'm not the one making the decision, doing the planning, looking at the wedding card wordings, choosing the music and arranging the sitting arrangements. I don't have to fret whether things go on smoothly or whether my guests have arrived promptly.

Somehow, there isn't much of an anxiety compared to during the ROM and the Part 2 dinner here in Singapore.

That's right, cos Part 3 is going to be in Kuala Lumpur which is 5 hours away from Singapore. Its like quite difficult for me to do anything. So my MIL and FIL as well as SIL is doing the bulk of the preparation. Though I'm glad they did try to involve us by asking us to choose the wedding invitation cards.

I must say I'm lucky to have good parents in law ;D

I do have my disappointments of course. Like My brother and future Sister-in-law are unable to attend. Meaning I am not able to serve him tea signifying that I am getting married. My sister is having a hard time applying for annual leave as she is currently on attachment. I'm getting married away from home and know only like less than 10% of the guests.




Its too late to do anything. Now I just hope I have a good make-up artist on that day and the bridal co will not charge us too much for gown rental.

No matter what its something we need to go through and I hope I can go through it happily. My 姐妹and some兄弟 are taking leave to go with me to the ceremony ... I should at least try to enjoy myself right?

Undergoing MyBlogLog Verification

Thank you... my Malau

I want to thank you..... for being there when I needed a shoulder to cry on



I want to thank you..... for being the translator when I couldn't communicate with my mother

I want to thank you..... for not forgetting what most men will forget

I want to thank you..... for cooking xmas dinner even though you've never cooked other than maggi noodles

I want to thank you..... for helping to clean the house when I'm injured (should have asked u to do spring cleaning)

I want to thank you..... for saying I need to be fatter cos you are afraid I will go on diet to slim down

I want to thank you..... for letting me watch my TV show even though you favourite soccer is currently on

I want to thank you..... for letting me do what I want

I want to thank you..... for letting me be what I want

Most of all...

I want to thank you.... for being here

Thank you my Malau

The Magic is still there

Been hearing alot recently... of breakups and divorces. It gets me depressed and stressed out hearing people talk about such things. Especially when they mention it without thinking it through.

How do I know they are not thinking enough? People telling me that they are thinking of getting a divorce. However, when I ask them why, very few of them can give me a clear answer. At most they can squeeze a "don't know, no sparkle.... I guess"

Sparkles!

I would just like to ask them. What made them decide to get married in the first place? Is it the sparkle that happened at that time and space? Or is it the willingness to commit to each other for life?

I don't know about you reading this post here. For me its both.

Alot of people actually didn't think good of us when we first got together. Very different in personalities and characteristics. Different background. I'm needing in TLC while he is a wild monkey. ;D (I hope he doesn't read this)

However, even though we have been together for 6++ years, the magic (oh well sparkles) is still there. You may say: "You both just married what! Wait till you married for 6++ yrs then you say.."

Yes but what I am trying to bring across is that: "Time does not matter until we are both white-haired"

Its the effort and willingness put in that matters.

Why are there pple staying married, lovey and dovey for what? 20yrs? Why?? (and its not because they are born to produce sparkles)

Its because they know how to keep their marriage alive and erm... sparkling? (hehe)

There was once I read in this article. It says that most of the time, relationships broke up because people are self-centered. Whatever they did, is for their own good. Hence when they do certain things like flirt, have affairs, spend money etc they think of themselves as the first priority. Imagine if everyone think of their partner's feelings before they do anything rushed.

Things will get way way better.

You cannot expect people to stay the same and loving throughout 8 years of marriage. You cannot expect people to change to suit your character just because you say so. You cannot expect people to change for you just because you lusted for the oh-so-manly-and-suave Hong Kong actor!

Do something! Book a hotel room in hawaii (or Sentosa if you are on
budget) and get ur ass into a slinky nightgown for some sparkles! (and
maybe some drooling)

Shower/bath *wink* together~ (Buy her favourite shower gel)

Get surprises for each other, don't wait until xmas/anniversary/birthdays!

Keep yourself energetic/confident/good looking and don't blinge on Mac
everyday just because you are married. Nobody say physical attraction does not
pay a part in maintaining a relationship.

However, whatever you do, remember marriage is not just about you you you!
Its about both of you. Just like 1 hand cannot clap (unless u slap it against something) both of you need to put in the effort.

I cannot say my marriage is perfect or we both love each other to bits till forever and ever. I dare not say something like that.

However, at least I understand the implications of getting married and I understand that marriage is not the full stop. (Its not the start too)

Its the comma of the sentence as it still needs to be continued until something is made out of it. Whether there is a meaning to the sentence depends on the writer and the reader.

Of how we met and the likes

well... was reading through my past posts and just realised that the life of this blog started since he started proposing (well actually back dated but aw... never mind)

However, our Bliss did not start from 21st Oct 2006. In fact, it started way back...

How did we meet each other? We are so different.... Well, this I have to thank NTU Hall 8 aka the SDU of Singapore... keke NTU is going to flame me for that ...

Its going to be a long story and kind of confusing .. bear with me ya?

I actually thought I met him (HR) in the 歌谣group of Hall 8 ... he being my guitarist and we were hired by some people in China Sq to perform (together with Shuwen) that was in 2001 during my first year 2nd semester in Uni.

However, I heard later (after we got together) that we actually met way before (well not that long.... just for effects kee kee)

Timeline:

2000 :
first semester of sch .. Joined Hall 8 and after the totally shacked Orientation Programme termed F.O.C. I joined the Block Rep (Representatives) as my first ECA.

That marked the beginning of us.
As a blk rep, we have to go door to door to introduce ourselves. As we will be in charge of the blk's welfare from then on. The last door we went to, was HR's. Since everyone (except for me) knew him, they chatted longer at his door while I walk around .... hum to my self, play with his clothesline, play with 小花 (hall cat)... subsequently, I forgot I met him.... but he did not ;)

It was during the first blk supper that we blk reps organized that I met HR. At first I tot he's a senior. (He looks very chao4老 you can't blame me for mistaking) A group of us stood in a circle after the supper, chatting ... while a senior/photographer came over to take our photos. HR requested taking a photo of both of us ... I was like feeling quite strange but tot WTH, he is just another friendly senior ..

Proceeded to forget about the photo taken and I never saw the photo again till like 1 year later. And I promptly, forgot about him ... keke I guess I started growing old at that time.


Still 2000
Joined the CAC as my main ECA though after that I found I din quite like it so I never took part in their activities except for one .... 午餐音乐会... where I have to perform live at Canteen B. I still remembered I sang 心动by 林晓培. Practices with guitarist at CAC was not enough so I asked one of the seniors in Hall whether they can help mi practice and HR was there... helping with the guitar...

and erm ... A few days later, I forgot that he was there .... (yes again..... no~~~~ dun hit me!)


Still 2000 (late)
Joined the DND committee and was supposed to come up with a programme to canvass for $$ as the budget given was of cos not enough (hell its only enough to hold event in the Hall) we came up with this 弦歌记忆... where hall mates will dedicate songs for other hall mates and we will sing (live) to them. Complete with gifts of roses/bears/giftboxes. Who to sing? Of cos its me... and who to play the guitar? Of cos its HR ...

In addition to the 歌谣 event mention above, chances to see each other increases. (At this point I thought I got to know HR the first time ... but actually its not the first)

Started chatting with him on ICQ (yes that time MSN wasn't that widely used) and sms.


2001
Being a slow person, I didn't realise there was anything wrong with us... until kaypoh seniors (yes Roger.. thats U) keep asking us whether there are anything going on between us. Of cos they will ask, since we cook noodles for each other, he always seem to need to stock up at Jurong Point when I need to go home (he will ask whether want to take bus out from hall together keke) meeting up for dinner, showing up at events together and going to charity concerts.

Until finally the rumours are flying like dog's fur ... (erm .. )


I asked him .. On a Tuesday (27th Feb 2001) just after I finish my guitar lesson I saw an sms from him:

Him: (sms) When are you coming back to Hall Miss Piggy? (his nickname for me and this is the kind of sms he kept sending me ;P)

Me: (sms) Should be going back home. Not going hall today. Why lei?

Him: (sms) Nothing much, just asking

Me: (sms) so what about the rumours going on? Did Roger ask u anything?
(he didn't reply me for sometime)

Him: (sms) I want to ask you whether you will be my gf.
(I didn't reply him for some time partly cos I was thinking how come he use sms to ask me and partly becos the KFC ice cream cone is melting in my hands)

Me: (sms) OK. I will

and thats it. Keke

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Marriage Life

hmm... haven been blogging here like half a mth .. had alot of pple asking me how is marriage life...

I can say like not much difference from the past? Lesser big quarrels and a little more small bickerings... Savings on hp bill and more convenience for mutual friends hahahaa

We see each other everyday .. we hear each other speaks.... we hear each other's tone of voice ... hence there are lesser misunderstandings ... which lead to lesser big quarrels which in our case... are usually mis-understandings...

more bickerings... on who to clean the house .. who to throw the rubbish.... oh~ the common things ... hahah like the both of us who are not required to do housework in our own house, housework is a big change ... but still by now the territorials are set....

clothes = his, since I am too too short to reach the hangers... hack I can't even reach to the bottom of the washing m/c

sweep/mop= mine, sometimes he do them

cook = me during weekends... its his on weekdays (o~maggee mee o~ maggi mee) since he reaches house like 1.5 hrs earlier than I do.

toilet washing = me of cos~!

rubbish = definitely his! (since I'm scared to death of seeing roaches if I open the rubbish chute)

-.-"

savings on hp bills and since we both are no lifers, most of our hp usage spent on each other .. after changing workplace, I'm now on MSN~! even more savings ...

and mutual friends of ours who think that notifying 1 is notifying both ... saves on hp bills or the hassle of typing MSN msg twice... *sweatz*

but of cos ... I know the "difference" is not only in these kind of mundane stuffs (all u commoners~!) the difference now lies in the responsibility that falls on both of us and the commitments towards our family for our every decision. For e.g in the past, buying clothes, playing games 24/7 seems to be alright-when we are still singles

however, after we get married, buying 1 more top = lesser money for bills/savings for kids
playing another hr of game = 1 hr lesser time for hugs=1hr more of electricity bills...

It is no longer the "I" but the "we" that we need to emphasize on ...

Of cos, going deeper still, we have got 1 more person whom we can trust our life and soul on ... one more person nearer to us whom we can rely on when in need, to share our love, happiness, troubles, doubts and hopes... and this is the person (besides parents/siblings) who will be by the side for the years to come ...

Our wedding dinner Part 2

Our wedding dinner part 2:-

Y part 2? cos Part 1 is here: www.themuxicbox.blogspot.com if you have read it up ... anyway the 2 are not much linked though .... photos photos photos ... got a total 500++ photos from Choon Kiat ... my photographer for the day ... he even burned it to 2 sets of CD and DVD ... ;) and also customise the CD cover with our photos .... ;D


After the seeing the photo, I must say, if we are busy, then he is busier ... hahah cos if you look at the angle of our shots u'll know ... he got to stand at cramped places, dodge moving pple, stand on chairs and run around..... weeeu~ tiring~ esp with us 2 drunkards running around ... its even more difficult ....




Making up while entertaining guests and sms/calls... threw the work of:



briefing Zi Mues, entertain guests, rehearsals, briefing Managers to my hubby & Zi Mues .... look at how busy he is! Hahaha~ bt at least he work on that day ok.... I had to plan the programme and sitting arrangements! But ok ... nt all credits goes to me ... hubby helped too ... and Sounds Easy pple ...






My Sounds Easy peeps during rehearsals and performances.... we have got our Club 1.7.5 born here ...! hahah~~ Really appreciate their help.... Claire, June, Yanxing, Allan, Celina and Phil and Claire's friend Chua (guitarist) ...

Peeps out there who are looking for special performances can engage us as well, we not only do pop songs, also arcapella ;) can email me themuxicbox@gmail.com






The guests who dutifully wrote in the guest book..... My sistas did a great job reminding them to write their emails down as we will be sharing our photos via emails ... wont be printing the photos out cept for requests and for relatives ... this is a way of saving paper/money/effort ... since I know alot of pple now keep their photos in soft copy format ... somemore I am one of these kind of person ... hahaha ...






Photos with our dearest performers ... I really owe it to you all who put in alot of effort despite the rushed from DXO performance having only 1 week to practice fully for our songs...
and dear Celina who had to do a solo at my request for a song she haven really hear in the first place ... its "that's when I love you ..." esp love the lyrics since they remind me of Dar and my 6 yrs relationship ... I know June understood me fully hahaha ... ;P

"When you turn to hide your eyes ... when the movie, it made u cry... tats when I love u ... I love u ... a little more each time"
"When you can't quite match ur clothes or when u laugh at ur own jokes... thats when I love you I love you ... more than you know ...."
"Or when you forget that we had a date ... the look that u gave when u show up late ... baby I love you ... I love you anyway ... "





The table of guests ... 16 tables with only 3 tables of relatives ... y so little? Cos my relatives are in JB and his in KL ... we will be having another dinner in KL next yr ... so this dinner is for our close friends .. made in these 26 yrs......






Next comes the havoc ... where everyone made us promise to come round their table again to have a drink .... cos we wanted to look presentable for the photos ...

hahah ... so we went round again! To have toasts and drinks with all the tables..... since most pple know I can take drinks ... the target was of cos to make us drink beers after beers ...

till we cannot walk well.... till I am bursting my gown ... till my arms grow fat cos of water retention ... till I want to puke ... till our parents come up to stop us ... hahaha .....

Dun know how many yum~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ sengs! we shouted ...






The aftermath ... where I was like hugging everyone and saying thank yous ... dunno how many times/pple I hugged ... I was too seih2 to remember ... I can only remember I was swaggering here and there as I walk with Claire pulling on my train so I wont trip .. and pulling me when I almost fall ...



The family/families:
Dad, Mum, Mum-in-law,Dad-in-law, our younger sisters, my elder brother and my sister-in-law-to-be (wow xinyi gt the longest title in the family)






Both of US:

His speech : 感谢大家.......出席....今天的晚宴....(end)

Me: Sweatz drop ..... -0-"

My speech: Thank you everyone for coming to our wedding dinner .. sorry for the rush ... bt since today is Sunday and there is work tomorrow, we hoped everyone can go home not so tired .... I would like to thank my Sounds easy pple .. who not only helped with the performance but also helped me with the planning and etc ... really a big thank you to them ... and also the pretty ladies outside ... my 姐妹s who helped with the reception and urshers ... Also would like to thank our parents ... since without them, we won't be standing here ... Lastly, I would like to thank haoren ... for eating all the green vege and garlic I cook even though he hates green vege.... Please enjoy yourselves, thank you.
clap clap clap clap clap.................



After the dinner ... both of us are like dead drunk ....

Have to go thru another Part 3 in KL next yr .. Mar 9 2008 .... where it consist of customary and wedding dinner ... I don't really know much pple in KL .. some of his friends and relatives ... many are hi-byes ...So I hoped my Zi mues can come with me ... bt so far only 3 can ... I certainly hoped nothing comes up during that time .... I don't want to 嫁 without 姐妹with me ... So 姐妹s... PLEASE ... ;P

I don't think will be as bad as tis time round at least for me since pple there don't know me ... so I don't think they will force me to drink ... (except for 2 I know....)

Wedding preparation Day!

hihi~ Post about my Before-wedding-preparation can be found at www.themuxicbox.blogspot.com since I am too lazy to update both blogs hahaha~!
stay tune for the photos taken at the wedding!

Busy busy~

busy bee busy bee... haven finish customising our guests book, ang bao box... haven discuss with the MC of the prog...

I dun like last min things....~

hmm... everyone keep asking me whether I am nervous cos the big day is coming ... like I said, I am not since there is no ceremony in the day so there is actually not much to look forward to ... this is like kinda sad for me since can't even 出嫁in my own home ... can't even have 接新娘on that day ...

I am only scared and nervous about whether things are all proper... wat is the best way to hold the wed dinner, are there anything I left out, whether all my guests will turn up... somehow I got no time to be nervous but just want to get it over and done with ... and of cos I am hoping to watch the perf by Sounds Easy.. still very sad that can't get them to sing acapella like Heaven is a place on earth since HR and I are not singing ... actually I wont mind singing la ... but June says its weird if I wear gown up on stage when the rest are not somemore we are not singing the solo parts ...

we hope all goes well... we don't hope for ang bao big big .. just make sure we dun lose alot of money since we are on very tight budget..... PLEASE come~~~ my guests~!!!

Went for the gown choosing this morning at Dawn's wedding ... the wedding gowns are nice but the evening gowns are nt that great.....
went thru alot alot alot~! of gowns before we settle on the final 2 I wonder how we are going to choose for the Mar 08 wedding ... hahah

like this colour bt the pattern looks abit weird
love this bt wat with the loop sided gathers?


erm?
like a night gown though the colour is great
stiff material and a great colour too bt Dar doesnt like it
this is nt bad... I like this bt dar finds it too plain

this is one of the better pieces.. I quite like this too...
plain bt lovely
like this ... very sweet


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Final 2 gowns chosen... both a a tad too sexy for my choice .. bt looks nice though haha though they emphasized on wat I don want to emphasize... hehe

still alot of photos bt din want to put them all out .. too much ah ... bt glad we finally managed to choose 2 gowns .... will be getting the hand flowers and the hair and other accessories too ... haven see the accessories bt hope it goes well with the gowns ... otherwise there wont be time go get others since we are only collecting the things like 1 day before the dinner... lucky no jing cha.... haha

Going to choose gown on Sunday~!

Finally eh~ confirmed the no. of tables, menu and sitting arrangement although I still have some headaches abt the sitting... see....? thats y I don't like having a wedding dinner ma .... cos very ma fan .. somemore plan here and there then just a few hrs then everything is over ... and not much pple will appreciate it also .... somemore still hiam here and there ... some more (or shyte becoming more and more naggy) haha ... still left :-

1. Testing of songs and videos
2. Final editing of videos (yes with the s there)
3. Meeting with jie meis
4. Choosing of gowns for the nite
5. Dye/cut hair for dinner nite

But actually the meeting is nt much also la since its just a wedding dinner... there is no customary or watever the * ... and yes for the 101th time, the customary and actual wedding dinner is in KL and is next yr ... this wedding dinner in Singapore Oct 07 is a 补请just take it as seperate into 男方and 女方dinner with a few mths apart la ... so diff meh? need to ask again and again or not?

Some photos of our new house (well not that new la ... cos its 3 mths old) funishing completed waiting for dust to set in ~~

Tada! My wardrobe and mind u my clothes are just the upper row eh~ and Dar says I got lotsa clothes! I bet I got the fewest among the girls in Singapore age 12 and above lor~ Its untidy in the pic la ... but cos we haven tidy it up then ... now it looks diff (slight) ... and yeah thats a platform bed there ... yes platform as in the wooden (laminated) platform is on the flr and not some Zen-like-platform-wanabe bed

Contemplating whether I should have put up some wall graphics ... there are some cool ones at Winkplay~ www.winkplay.com

Unique clock gotten at JB for only RM124! Its the shop just besides Popular at city square~

New members of our family ... haha ;) and yup that red chair is mine and nope I don't love red~

hihi~ nearly finish preparing for the wedding dinner in oct ... haveing sent out the invite cards, performers in order so now its the gowns, the sitting arrangements and of cos the dinner menu hehe .... house is nearly done too .. just left the book shelf and abit here and there and we can finally have our house warming~ hahah ... yeah finally ... even though the house is like very warmed up already....

Hmm.... wasn't allowed to have customary here in Singapore, wasn't allowed to wear wedding gown here in Singapore although Singapore is my own home and country. This made me very sad.... Becos "出嫁" means married out ... if its not married out of my own home, y issit called "出嫁"? So I am only going to 嫁 and not 出嫁.....

But I managed to pester Dar to let me wear wedding gown here even if its a repeat... to hell with those who say pandang ... to hell with those who say its not a good omen ... If wearing gown for 2nd time = bad omen, then every one can forget abt going for bridal photo shoot. As long as Dar and our parents don't mind about it, I don't see there is anything wrong, further its not the others who are getting married, its us, the memories stay with us both for life.

I just hope my 姐妹s can make it for the wedding in KL otherwise there will be a very solemn bride there....

by the way, the soft copy of the photos are up just at the link on the right side termed "Our Bridal Show". Been trying to do a video of our bridal photos to show on our wedding dinner nite. Not planning to bring out the hard copy during the dinner as I din want the photos getting finger printed. (Not u, I meaned bt everyone touching all at once) Doing the video is quite hard as we have very few photos and they dun last the 4min ++ of that song no matter how I try. Since I need to place the photos in accordance to the lyrics of the song. So in the end I have to add some other things here and there like a poem or something. I hope the guests wont get bored or something since most of them would have already since the photos in soft copy.

just got a call from Dawn's wedding, seems like our photo album is ready!!! yeah man so exciting rite? Planning to wait for this week the storerm shelves and book shelves to be up. Then we can get rid of all those barangs on the flr... once we got the albums and we can have a house warming (Already very warm)... !~

went to see our bridal photo layout~ Looks great although there are some minor changes that have to be done due to the type of photo album that we have chosen.... Really must compliment Dawn's Wedding for their professionalism in helping us from package to gowns to photos to layout and other queries. Not once did they make us feel that we've made a wasted trip~~ very accomodating in fact when we say we need the CD for the photos quick..... Definitely received 8/10 marks for my experience.... hehe ... sounds like some promotional review for them?

Moving into the new house saw haoren and I acting as cleaners... haha .. everyday its clean clean clean wash wash wash .. somemore I am the type... I cant stand to see even a strand of hair on the floor...I wanted Haoren to sweep the floor everyday while I mop the floor but in the end .. we found that we cant balance that between dinner... bath, wash clothes and computer games... haha so its now 2 days clean once and maybe 2 to 3 days wash clothes once.

Weekend sees me cooking and the first meal I cook (except maggi mee) turns out to be black pepper chicken fillet with mixed veges and overstarched siu pak choy... Received only a miserable 50% from Haoren cos he feels the chicken is too spicy for me and the vege is hard and lack of taste... But I think the chicken taste just fine with rice although the vege seemed like cooked in glue .. haha .. but no prob .. its a great start for someone who seldom (or never cook things other that hot dog and maggi) haha ..... !

hmm! done photographing for bridal! (note this is done in may but i lazy to blog it down) heard from chin siew its tiring.. yet heard from kelly its fun! hmm i hoped mine will be fun too and turned out.. its great! was there at JB like 1 day before the shoot.. we rented a room in one of the hotels nearby and stayed there for the night since we din want to queue like hell at the custom. reached the bridal at 930am.. started 1.5 hrs long of make up surprise surprise HR never fall asleep although I myself was going to fall asleep soon... At first I tot the make up is like a few layer thick but later my make up artist only applied a thin layer saying the photo lighting will do the rest.. haha but the irritating thing is having to put on nail polish .. but i must admit it looked nice in the photos .. haha photographer was henry... friendly and spontaneous guy who keep making fun of us...

19th May: went to look at the finish photographs and was kept waiting at Dawn's for a few hrs cos the mke up artist booked an appointment for us at the wrong date! but we got excited looking at the photos and forgot the wait haha .. yanxing, kaiting, claire and allan went with us. Allan is like so cute cos there was a photo which I din like but Allan like so he tried ways and means to keep it in my view so that I will look at it for so long i will like it haha but his tricks dun work cos i still din choose that photo. taking photos are not tiring but choosing photos is... esp when most of the photos are nice.. (i rejected those that show my thick arms) .. and also to fit the song that we wanted to use for our photo montage... claire really helped alot ...haha and we both are like brainstorming which photo to use for which lyrics... surprise surprise! we found that HR without specs and hair styled look like Tank! haha and the song for our photo montage coincidentally is by Tank.. but he din like that photo of him although claire and I insisted on using that photo as the 1st in the montage ;P

yoo hoo~ looking at my past entry, i've just realised that i've not been updating this blog for a long long time... well glad to be updating on my new marriage life... haha but actually since we have not really lived with each other yet, there are actually not much things to say abt it.

However, since our renovation will be done soon (in June!) we should be moving in already....Although I dont really like the look of the house cos of the ugly living room tiles... but I think have to live with it since we are on damn tight budget. (U pple out there who dun have to worry abt money better feel lucky abt it) so we just try hard to deco it into how we like it. But I must say cos of the house, we have quarrelled, run about to buy furniture and items like sink and spent alot of money... so if we don't try to like staying in it.. all of it will be wasted.... u pple out there getting married and getting a new house... better save up in excess cos there are alot of hidden costs in it....

Finally gotten our keys but due to some problems with the seller's new flat... we have to let her extend for another week. Quite angry over it as its not the first time that she extended .. we are actually 1 mths plus behind time... so sian .. finally got our new home but we are unable to do anything... but we promised ourselves... this is the last time.. anymore extension and we are ready to call the police.. even though she is of some age but I think we have given enough leeway...

Still... although we can't go into our house yet.. we have given some thoughts on the renovations like having a platform.. hacking the bathroom etc.. becos of the house.. we had some small quarrels .. mostly over the design etc.. the problem is I dun like designs that are very 死板板 but he dun like ideas that he called 乱 ... but I feel rather happy cos at least both of us are concern of our own home .. at least we can call it a home hehe

hi~

Although its been like quite a long time from 27 Feb, I've attached the link to my photos for the ROM!!! Thank you to those who came to our ROM celebration and ceremony that day.. We're sorry we can't attend to everyone but we appreciate your attendance and gifts~

Special thanks to Ah Di, Claire, June, Siyang, Sally, Yijun, Yin Sing, Yanxing... thank ya so much for your help~ Without ya all, we won't be able to enjoy ourselves so much~ Esp THE GREAT CHEF Ah Di~ Arigatou Gozaimasu!!!!!

hmm ... 25 Feb 07. 2 more days to ROM .. everyone asked me .. do u feel excited? How's preparations? Erm.. like I answered Didi... I am actually the most zou bo bride in the universe ba .. since everything for ROM are taken cared of by Haoren, Phil, Claire, Yanxing, Siyang (ok june.. u too) ;P I am only in charge of going to ROM to collect documents (with haoren) and putting on masks everyday .. haha

Really grateful that I have such a great HTB and great friends...

Strangely, I do not feel excited or anything .. probably cos its been a long way for us .. ROM or anything is just a procedure for us to walk an even longer road....

Just went thru our first appt with HDB ... we will be getting the keys from the owner on 5th April... actually I am not quite happy cos we can collect our keys end of March but the owner wanted to renovate her new house to move her things there. Becos of that, we will now face some problems. May already bought us sofa and the deadline for the delivery is 2nd April. Don't know what to do about that.

hmm .. getting nearer to our first appointment with HDB... 15th Feb .. its the day we are going to spend most money haha! Cos we need to give HDB the balance of the cash payment for the new flat... hopefully all goes well and we can become part of Bukit Gombak in April!!!

Oh yeah~ we managed to change the timing for our ROM to 3pm and invited our solemniser to Cdans chalet for the ceremony.. will be having a BBQ after that as celebration ;) .. originally tot to go photo taking after the ceremony but its seems bit strange to leave our guests in the chalet while we go take photos after the ceremony.. so we decided to ask my MUA to come at 10am and go take photos before ROM .. hopefully we can get transport cos I wan to take photos in Hall 8 hehe .. thats where Haoren and I met each other .... ☆^(o≧▽ﾟ)o *sweet*

Hi Yoz!

We have just signed up for a bridal studio in JB~ Yes, we went to JB int he afternoon, had lunch and proceeded to look for Dawn's Wedding that TW also signed up. Originally we had wanted to just browse around and have another 2 BS in mind. But in the end we signed up with Dawn's cos we are satisfied and comfortable with them. Esp our coordinator, Erene.

Originally there is another bed side framed photo and another table top. We had wanted to exchanged these 2 together with the 三连环 for 1 5R album but Erene (the coordinator) said since I like the 三连环 she will exchange the bedside and table top photo for small album instead. I also saw this 黑之恋 and liked it so she said she will add it to the package with no extra charges.

The package costs RM3988 but she discounted it to RM3500. But there are additional costs for fake eyelashes etc. (round RM150). Actually the package is not very special what is special is the great service Erene provided me with. She actually told us the pros and cons of which album to choose this most BS won't do. No hard selling, very patient and flexible. We din prepare enough money cos we din wan to sign up that day originally. So we din have enough for their deposit of min RM1K so Erene said we can give what we have first (RM300) but we cant take the original invoice until we top up the rest. We din really nego much cept for the 5R album. The rest of the perks she add in auto. They do have limited ROM gowns, so I will consider getting my own.

However, getting the MUA to singapore for my rOm cost like S$380~! So we decided to get a freelance make up artist instead. Thanks to all the research done, i actually found a MUA whom i think is quite good.

For now, we will have more researches to do. The style of photos we want, the poses, the outdoor shoot venue, cos Dawn's only do shoots in JB, have to top up money if we want elsewhere. Give me some suggestions if you have~ o@(^-^)@o

yoz~

Finally managed to book a date for our ROM .. its on the 27th Feb 2007. Exactly 6 years from the day Haoren and I got together~ Coincidentally~ it also falls on a Tuesday... and even more coincidental, my HP contract ends on that day! (Not that it matters la) We managed to get Siyang to be our photographer that day (Yippee!) and sweet siyang even agreed to take leave for us~ Thank you!~~~｡o@(^-^)@o

We have decided to go JB to look for our bridal studio ... lesser the price .. better the package so why not? My concerns are the safety of us going there and the mahfan-ness when we collect our photos. So we may have to bother some of our friends ah .. since we have no car... but still, like June said, it will save us alot of money which is what we needed most...

Going to send in the application for our flat this month. Hopefully everything will go on smoothly.. Cant wait to get the keys to the house... then it will really be OUR house .. like real excited right? To set up a family of your own etc... although I know it is going to be tough ah ....please have trust in us.. Cos I know and trust that we can do it.. its going to be an ever after~

(*^-')/~☆

yoz!
After engaging an agent to help us in our search for a flat, we went through like 7 or 8 flats before shortlisting 2. So now its the battle of the 2... I liked both and my parents like the fully renovated one while haoren liked the other.. however the fully renovated house will need at least 25K in cash on 1st appt and totalling 228K~! Further this price is just for the renovation,not even the furniture not to mention legal fees, commission and other costs that goes up with the purchase price~ Where will we go and find such money? Even if we borrow from his dad, we will be debt ridden for our live man.. we will still need to buy furnishings. So y not we get the renovated-but-not-so-much house and spent the money deco it to our liking. and get our own furnishings. The total may not add up to 25K...

This is of course met with opposition from my mum and although she insisted that we cant pay more than 2K cash for a flat, her selective memory immediately came to effect when she saw the house that she like. So now it seems like I am the one who dun want to pay the cash. ~Sweatz~ Anyway, we decided not to get the flat she like so she is unhappy. What to do? We are not born with silver spoon and we din wan to slog ourselves for the house.... its better being realistic.. than to quarrel and go thru much unhappiness just becos of money... I am marrying Haoren, not Haoren-with-a-228K-house.. ;)

hiyo!~

Finally spoken to my parents about our marriage and luckily like haoren's parents, they also felt that we should settle the house first and thanks to my mum's selective memory~ she claims she never said she wan banquet!~ Oh well~ it doesn't matter as long as she is willing... She din seem to like the idea that we are looking for a flat in Bukit batok/gombak ... she seems to think that these places are too far from Jurong.. Well.. its not that we din want to live in Jurong I just dun like the many Bangla quarters here since they will always drink and fight at the void deck, urinate in the lift and etc.... We do have a problem with buying house though cos of the cash payment that we have to make...

We have to postpone our marriage to Oct 07 due to budget prob .. I do hope to have a poolside party or beach party if its a buffet but Oct seems like a bad month to have outdoors. Since now we have taken a liking to Orchid Country Club which serves a decent menu will good package at the poolside and the price is affordable. We haven seen the pool yet though and the only grievance for now is the max quota of 100pax. Will keep sourcing though ... since the date is still far and not in the peak period for weddings. Haoren's parents will be coming next week... wonder whether there will be any new developments. Will keep u guys updated!~

Ganbatte to us and all couples!~~~~~~

After the propose is of course the preparation.
Researches after researches of flat purchase, bridal studio, banquet venues etc.
Of course we have to pass the many obstacles in order to carry on with the preparation.
Guess what? Both of us are not pro-banquet infact we really do hope for just ROM and buffet reception for friends thats all.

We had actually signed up for a package at Everbliss and gave a deposit for it, however after many researches and feedbacks. It seems like they are not a good choice at all~ We are also rather put off with the way they forces us to pay the deposit like they will go bankrupt without it. We decided to forfeit the deposit and look for another studio. This is to prevent us regretting in the future. So u pple out there who are looking for bridal studio~ dun rush to it. Remember to compare prices before going into it~! So now we are shopping around for bridal studio. Have went to "双喜'and found it to be not bad. Reasonable pricing~friendly staff but we haven gone for it yet. Maybe going to Johor to take a look.

But of course like many pple said, a marriage is not 2 pples' affair but 2 families' affair.

His mum would like us to have a banquet with traditional customary "敬茶" and since he is the eldest and only son in the family, I do understand why she requested that and due to the exchange rates of ringgit, having a banquet in KL won't cost our lives. That settles it.

The other side is of course my parents. Whom also requested that we have a banquet. However, after many researches etc. Thats like virtually impossible for us being a young couple. We do not have much budget set aside for 2 banquets, bridal studio and a flat and since we decided to get resale flats its like an even heavier burden on us. After much discussion with my hus to be~ We decided to persuade my mum to go to Kl for the banquet and of course my relatives there too. Poolside buffet will be for friends in Singapore. At least both our parents and our wishes are fulfiled and of course a lesser financial burden.

Going to talk to my mum next week. wish me luck~!

21st October: My House: My Room

This is the day Darling proposed to mi~ hehe
No flowers, no rings, no kneeling ...
Just a simple "Will u marry mi?" sincered and real..
Its like the nth time he said that but I have always treated him as making a joke ..
Maybe its the correct time, correct place or his manner of saying it, Unlike previous
attempts, I said "yes"